Thursday, 25 May 2017

Hindi Medium- A must watch movie

In a country where knowing English language defines your class, this movie certainly strikes a chord. Our obsession with English is so much that a country where we have 22 official languages, more than 500 local dialects, with rich literature still we feel the domination of English, a foreign language. I am a native Maharashtrian, and my love for my mother tongue knows no bounds. For me Marathi is not just a language it is like my mother. This is the reason I taught my son to call me 'Aai' and not 'Mamma'(no offence for those who call Mamma). If I had the liberty to choose my medium at school, I would have definitely opted for a vernacular medium, Although, I do enjoy the perks of studying in English Medium, but some where deep down my heart, I feel that no matter which language is in trend, you can always express yourself better in your own language. I used to place so much importance on my mother tongue and unlike many Indians who take pride if they mess up their vernacular grammar, I feel ashamed of myself if I am not able to converse in Marathi correctly. I used to see Hindi and English languages as outsider languages and kept propagating the importance of my mother tongue.

Then one day I landed up in Chennai and I had friends who spoke Tamil, Telugu, Malayalam, Hindi, Urdu, Kannada, Assamese. I was literally stumped. Even tough I take pride in my Marathi culture I was always and will always be an Indian first. This was my first cosmopolitan acquaintance and I did not know how to react, I had to shed my internal inhibitions and accept the fact that though Marathi is my mother tongue, if I have to communicate with my fellow countrymen, I have to leave behind which language is better than which one and accept any language which will help us to communicate with each other and that is what is expected in national integration. So as time passed by language for me was merely a means of communication and I became flexible in choosing the language based on which language was required for communication. So now in the argument that which medium a child should be enrolled, I do support English medium, looking at a global perspective, but I do not deny learning your native language. You have to learn them both and be better at them.

Now coming back to the film, the film highlighted the real plight of current Nursery admission system. The competition to get in the good school is insane. Parents are really ready to go to any level for school admissions. I still don't get some of the clauses of this elite schools where parents should know English, parents should be highly educated. What are these schools trying to say that kids of the parents who are uneducated are not entitled to learn in elite schools? If a child has a spark, he can shine anywhere. I still feel that instead of hunting for the best school in the city, parents must try to enrol in a school which is near to home. They should stop spending on donations on these private schools and opt for school which has good staff and not good infrastructure. With the global acceptance of English, studying in English Medium school might be inevitable, but that does not mean that someone studying in vernacular medium should be considered as inferior. I would definitely recommend all the parents to watch this movie.....

Happy Parenting!!!!

Thursday, 18 May 2017

Summer Vacations !!!

May is synonymous to summer vacations for children. I remember spending my vacations in my grandmother's place in our native. Since my mom was also a working mom, me and my brother went to my grandmother's place and we stayed at our grandparents house without my parents. The legacy continues with my son. He is always excited for summer vacations. When my mom arrives to take him at her place, he seldom feels the pain of separation from us instead he is so excited that he happily waves us a good bye and assures us that he will behave like a good child wherever he goes. I am amazed by his sense of maturity when it comes to such incidents. He does gives me a hard time at many instances but there are some circumstances where he shows impeccable understanding. 

He loves staying with his grandparents at Alibag. Everyday starts with playing on beach and ends with playing on beach. When he is not playing on beach, he is visiting some sightseeing, gardens. And lastly he is visiting all our family friends houses, climbing trees and enjoying his life to fullest. These are some experiences which we do not get in cities, but these are very important in a kid's childhood. Same is the case when he is visiting his paternal native near Kolhapur. He is an extrovert and loves to meet new people. He always needs someone with him and really hates being alone. So either ways he is very happy and lucky to have such grandparents. If I were a stay at home mom, I could have accompanied him at these places. But I am not and so it means that we have to face the pain of separation for a month.

The first few days it is very calm and quiet and I start making a list of house hold chores that he won't let me to do, like arranging all his closets, washing cushions which are filled with his stains. However loneliness starts gripping after few days. Coming home to a vacant house is bit depressing. When I come home from work, my son gives me a celebrity red carpet arrival welcome and then he won't leave me until he sleeps. So when he is not around I try to pursue some hobbies which I really don't get time, like reading books, watching movies....but instead I open my laptop and start seeing his videos right from when he was one day old to his last birthday party videos. We all moms are so similar. We keep nagging when our kids don't let us do anything and the moment we get some free time, we start missing them.

So for outsiders it looks like now you are free for a month sleep whenever you want, getup whenever you want but the thing is I miss him all the time and just can't wait to see him on weekends. Now I feel how strong our mothers are when they left us to pursue our education at hostels. For Aarush, there is still lot of time for these things....but the way he is growing up that day won't be that far. However, I do feel that letting kids stay away from you for these vacations will make them independent. They will get to be on their own and start interacting with other people. Meanwhile you can also, try to catch up with friends, your spouse in this time. If possible take unpaid leave during your kids vacation time to stay together. You can also plan a short trip to some historical place so that your kid will be engaged in history. Try to make most of your kid's vacation time and in case you have to leave your child away from you be strong its just a matter of few weeks.....